Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Dec. 31

I called Dad this AM. Val had a shower and was resting. Dad was making her ice chips...both are a bit tired today. Dad wants me to sit with Val on the 6th of Jan. while he attends an appt. I am so happy to be of help. I asked Dad again today if he would allow me to drive them to the next chemo treatment in Burlington on the 9th of Jan...I am hopeful he will agree to this. Praying for Good Health for all in 2009! :-) Baine

1 comment:

Fran said...

Hello Everyone,

I realize that for all of us, on many different levels, and for many deeply personal reasons, Val's illness has, is and will continue to create complex emotions. While I understand that the blog is not necessarily the place for these emotions to be expressed I just thought I would tell you that I am used to talking WITH VAL about deeply personal things so it is weird now to being talking about her and not with her. I believe that she will have stronger times and look forward to speaking with her then.

At present, most the blog followers are siblings. Although we know OF one another, we don't really know each other very well. Of course, at this time our main concern is Val, but in this process I would like to introduce myself so that you may better understand me, how much Val means to me, and that my intentions are always of good will although I may at times be blunt (don't take it personally!).

As you know, Val and I are cousins. We are related through my mom and Lea's side of the family. I have been to and from Barre since I was four years old. My Grandparents emigrated to Barre from Italy, moved to NYC, summered in Barre and ultimately retired there. Val and I have spent many happy summers together. My mom is here in NY and concerned about Val so I am giving her daily updates. I envy those of you who are siblings. Val and i are only children and she has been the closest person to me as a sister. I think she GETS me and that I GET her. i think that is a special thing (that someone gets me and still likes me:)!!

I understand Val's need for rest and Val and Jay's need for privacy. I do not take it personally that Val is not able to speak with me now. I think that you are all doing an amazing job and cannot express enough thanks. When I am needed I would like to participate as well. Please do not hesitate to ask. You guys know how to deal with your dad... I don't! When Val would like to see me, I would love to see her. I know that this makes Dad anxious, as he has said. Help!

I have been a nurse for a loooong time-so from a medical point of view, her condition or needs will not surprise me. If I can be of any help in translating any information or speaking with any health professionals, I'd be more than happy to do so. I currently work full time in a school and part time in an emergency dept and most of my experience is in a hospital. I am off for three days the middle of January (MLK weekend) and would like to come to Vermont if Val would like. (I can also come on any other 2 day weekend)

She and Dad may feel that because of the distance from NYC that I would need to be at the house for a long time. I certainly understand that this is not possible-I don't need to be entertained or cared for.....five minutes (okay, maybe ten =)), would be ok.
Please do not think all my entries will be this long. On this final day of 2008 I wish us all peace and all Good things in the coming year.

Talk to you soon!
Fran